08 Mar Confessions of a Working Mum
“Most of the time, I’m not even sure what I’m doing the right thing as a mum.“
CAUTION: This is a sentimental and personal post.
In honour of the Women’s Month, I’d wish to take on a different approach for my business’ blog. Normally, in line with the celebration, I would provide financial tips that would work for women or answer some mortgage questions that are frequently asked by mums or just women in general. However, I realised I have been doing that already ever since I branched out on my own. (I even have some dedicated posts on my social media accounts if you want that type of thing). So I decided on changing the tone of this post. Hence, that led me to launch a new series (ish) in this blog entitled “Confessions” where I share my personal thoughts on things that are relevant and very close to my heart. I want to be more relatable to my audience. I want YOU to feel that I know your struggles because as a woman and as a working mum, and for many years as a single mother, I experience those, too.
Let me be honest. What really gave birth to this blog post is the constant dilemma that I have—juggling my business and being a mum to my kids. I’m no new mum but it seems to me that as my kids grow and get older, there are moments that I feel like I’m not doing the right thing. Like I’m always missing something. Plus the added stress of having to finish my deals otherwise I won’t be able to meet my set monthly quota. You feel me? Most of the time, I’m not even sure what I’m doing is the right thing as a mum.
Being a mum is hard, being a stay-at-home mum is harder, and being a full-time working mum? Well, sometimes, it’s just a never-ending struggle. It’s like 648439 emotions wrapped up into one giant ball of feels.
Then it hit me.
It was 3 years ago when I decided to branch out on my own. Being self-employed is something I’ve always wanted to do in within this business. It wasn’t easy– I had to do everything on my own. I’ve got to be realistic here–reality is, success doesn’t happen overnight. If I learned one thing, it’s to always hold on to what drives you in the first place. My passion. My kids. My family. They are the reasons why I’m doing what I’m doing, and that is the choice that I personally made so I can’t count on anyone but myself.
Women are inspiring. They hold high-powered positions across different industries; they start their own businesses; they raise families. In fact, majority of the women are raising their kids while having a full-time work. But with only 24 hours in the day, how do they do it all? Maybe the answer is “We don’t.” I only have to find a way how to make it work and sometimes survive the day.
And then I move forward.
I take care of myself so I can take care of my kids. I wisely choose my support system.
The world is complex and it can be really competitive. I could advice you on a lot of other things that I learned while juggling my responsibilities as a mum and as a business owner but I trust in your ability to come through.
You are a woman. You may be a new mum, a single mum trying to make ends meet, just lost a job, or frustrated what to do next, but take courage and don’t be too hard on yourself. Have a brave heart to pursue what you’re passionate about.
For your kids and for yourself.
Salute to all the women out there! Happy Women’s Month!